Making the Most of What One Already Has
people think that all their problems will be solved if they just had
"More" -- of anything and everything, never realizing it could be a
double-edged sword that is killing them. Thus despite being morbidly
obese, they think they need even more food -- and more time sitting and
watching tv -- as the answer to their problem, if they even realize they
have a problem.
don't -- and think it is everyone else who has a problem, while they
are as perfect as one can imagine themselves being. To remain in such
company, requires one to distort all their other perceptions, in order
to comply with their insistence that they are the only one who is normal, and there is something wrong with everything else in the world.
that point, many people move on -- because of the tremendous drain of
energies required to support, and be supportive of such a world view --
in the light of everything else saying "It just isn't so." So in order
to maintain such illusions and delusions, such societies and circles
have to become more exclusive, eventually and inevitably isolating such
individuals from the joy of shared experiences and fullest participation
that is the hallmark of life in society and civilization.
the old, they may no longer have any contact with anyone else anymore
-- except for an army of professional caregivers to enable them in their
stubbornness to live life their way -- on their own terms, without any
acknowledgment or compromise with any other reality -- because
now that they are old (senior), it's "their way or the highway" for
everybody else, because one thing for certain, is that they will not
change -- for anybody else, but even more importantly, for themselves
who stand to benefit the most from doing so.
one observes many lives being lived that way -- apart and insensitive
to what is actually going on in the world -- always as a war of that
individual, with everyone and everything else in the world. That is the
conditioning they've assimilated, which makes everything they do
into a battle, and unnecessarily a hassle -- in everything they do, and
so of course they are worn out and beaten down way before their time.
That is the obvious difference between successful living -- and unsuccessful living, which prematurely ages
one. Most people are not just innocent bystanders in the outcomes of
their lives. Everything they do, has made it so. When one realizes
that, then everything one does, takes on a tremendous significance --
and will not say that nothing matters anymore, or can make a difference
-- because everything that individual does, makes a difference.
is more than just wishful-thinking -- but in seeing the connection,
between one thing, and everything else -- and recognizing that it is the
proper balance of one thing to every other, that is the proper
relationship (ratio), that makes things work -- or fail, and not just
indiscriminately "more." That rarely solves anything, much less the
problem one thinks that is the solution for -- and so despite their
"more" effort, sweat and pain, the results are not forthcoming, or
obvious -- to anyone else.
is the difference between those who are changing (improving), and those
who aren't -- it is strikingly evident to everyone else as well -- and
not just one's private fantasy and delusions that they have in fact,
conquered the entire world, and now the universe -- while everyone else
is deluded, in not agreeing that that is so. Quite commonly in fact,
one threatens to do bodily harm to any and all who do not agree with
what they are telling them -- as proof of those truths. It may be to
drop down and give them 20 pushups to show their obeisance and
compliance with that as the unquestioned truth.
That is conformance to authority -- and not the truth, that doesn't require the suspension of every other truth to consider. In fact, every other truth and authentic experience, will conform and confirm the new -- if it is valid. It is not just a learned and remembered truth -- having no validity in fact and experience -- which so much thinking and writing is about.
The critical faculties of the human body are contained and effected
at the extremities -- where the senses are acute for those purposes --
but most lose that sensitivity rather than hone them, largely through
disuse, neglect, and taking them for granted that they don't need to be
maintained, nor can they be improved. Yet that is what is most
important to improve, as milestones for the measure of quality of life -- which is the bottom line in every human life and experience.
quality, implies the right quantity -- while no gross amount of
quantity, can ensure quality. It doesn't matter how much of the wrong thing one does; they will not get the right result -- that even a very little of the right thing, will. That is what one should understand before doing anything -- and not just think that doing anything, is sufficient to get the right result. The world doesn't work that way. One should pay attention and observe, listen, and when the understanding is clear and complete, then it produces its own right action -- and not that one has to try something extraordinary to achieve it.
But no amount of not paying attention, not observing, and not listening -- will do them any good.
When Is the Right Time to Retire?
Most people don't choose retirement; retirement chooses them.
one is still employed at 70, by all means continue -- especially if
that is what your employer wants. But if it is only what YOU want --
and everybody else wants you out because you're dragging everybody else
down -- with maximum sick leave, sabbaticals, work that has to be done
over, undermining everybody else's efforts, then one has no business
being there -- and it is to the benefit of everyone for you to cease
"doing your own thing," there, rather than at home, on your own time.
That goes for everybody.
But the key metric, is how healthy one is
-- and whether that can best be achieved in continuing employment,
and/or devoting that time to more healthful activities. That doesn't
mean retiring to sit on one's front porch all day chain smoking --
before one gets taken to the nursing home to spend all the money they've
accumulated over a lifetime so that somebody else can feed, bathe, turn
and wipe them. That's not a good financial planning or lifetime
strategy all the President's men are envisioning as the future of
America -- where people just get worse, and never better.
key question is, "What makes your life immeasurably better?" -- and not
simply will one have enough money to pay for the final year or two of
life -- as a human vegetable? That is a totally meaningless
consideration that all the financial and health care "experts" have
fixated on -- as though that was the "be all and end all" of our days on earth.
is immeasurably more than just about money -- and accumulating more of
it, so they have the $250,000 a year to prolong their lives in a
non-functional state. That is not the inevitable condition of human
beings, "compassionate" liberals have deemed that stage of life, should
be for everyone.
The challenge of every time and place, has been
preparing the way for a healthier generation to be -- and not just to
prepare everyone to be the caregivers for everyone else -- at
prohibitively and accelerating high cost. That's not a viable and
So what is? Obviously, it is to create one's
greatest health and actualization not possible before in the history and
experience of the world -- by being it, and not just the richest person
in the nursing home. That is the challenge of our time.
What About Dental Care?
Community colleges that train dental hygienists and assistants, will
usually provide a thorough examination, complete X-rays, cleaning and
periodontal treatment, and advice on self-care for a very low cost
(under $100) -- which is most people's best bang for the buck.
They will also tell you if further work needs to be done -- so that
one obtains a "second opinion" first, rather than as a luxury most
people (think) they cannot afford -- before having further extensive
work done. Cosmetic dentistry is like cosmetic surgery -- they will do
as much of it as one can afford. So one should have this grounding in
what absolutely needs to be done -- as opposed to what could be done if
cost were not an issue.
Many community clinics will do extractions only for free -- or at a very low cost.
But the key in dental as well as medical care, is (preventive )
self-care -- which makes the biggest difference, and failing to address
this first first line of defense as primary care rather prohibitively
costly professional care too late down the road, is the massive failure
and disconnect of the present course of health care that no amount of
money can ever solve.
There's just not enough free money the government can create, to
solve all the problems people can create fro themselves, when they think
it is somebody else's primary job to take care of themselves -- which
is the critical problem of aging in the poorest adapting populations.
They never learned to care for themselves well, first -- as their
primary responsiblity, as nature intended. That is the missing link in
the "caring" equation. That is the viable, sustainable, cost-effective
future -- and NOT another massive government-funded DEBACLE -- promoted
by the media.
What Makes a Difference
a person who has observed "exercise" all his life, one asks, what is
one trying to do in all these movements -- and theories/explanations of
what works best?
this particular movement, rather than something else? What makes it
"work?" What fundamentally, is the objective of all movement? And what
is so important to move?
will say the weight -- or even the body -- but the only movement of
significance and importance, is a particular blood molecule -- making
the round trip from the heart, back to the heart -- and not being
clogged/impeded somewhere along the journey.
circulation process, is what keeps a body healthy and alive -- and not
just one part of it, frequently at the expense of all the others. That
would be counterproductive, because the strength and integrity of any
system (organism), is limited by its weakest link -- which is different
in different individuals. With Achilles, it was his heel, although he exhibited no other weakness; but that rupture was enough to immobilize all his other strengths.
so it is with many people -- living today's contemporary life, that
often do not actualize and engage all the parts of their bodies
sufficiently -- to ensure a healthful (maximal) blood flow to all areas
of their body -- to keep it functioning even at its lowest level, and
thus succumbing to disease -- because it is not part of the healthful
flow. In order to achieve this, it is not necessary to increase the
heart rate alone, but optimize the circulation -- by creating a circuit, with as complete a cycle of contraction and relaxation -- by which liquids and gases flow -- to the greatest extent possible.
the greatest extent possible, is the furthest extremity to which blood
can flow, before returning to the heart again. That requires movement
at that furthest extremity (joint) -- at the head, hands and feet --
where most people do not think to move, but rather focus on the
relatively strong parts of the body -- which are not where the human
body begins to fail, that is not obvious except to the most observant.
That's why hands hang limply, and feet barely articulate while walking,
and head movement (and facial expressions) has all but ceased -- so as
to make one a great danger in driving, and not being able to look around
-- easily and routinely -- as the quintessential human movement. One
often makes the right moves, just because of that awareness -- of what is going on around them, requiring such moves. Otherwise, one can only move by memory and thought -- rather than in response to real time exigencies, and such conditioning, has real survival value -- and not just arbitrarily doing what one has been conditioned to think is important to do -- whether it is appropriate or not.
is the question in much of life -- one can become good at something
that is not necessary to do (although one may win prizes at it), while
ignoring those things that are important to do -- but think they have no
time to do it, because they are so busy doing all those things -- that
are not important and may even be counterproductive, or injurious to
do. It is no accident, that the leading cause of injuries, is people
thinking that they are injury-proofing themselves against that
possibility -- until they are inevitably injured, and can do it no more.
unfortunately many, that is the end of all further activity, as they no
longer want to risk the inevitable further injury -- while ignoring the
many other ways around doing just that. It is their very conditioning,
that has taught them there is no other way but that -- and that is the
variations on the theme that more pain and difficulty, is the answer.
cannot think of an easier and better way -- because that has never been
part of their conditioning (education) to think so. Their entire
education (conditioning) has only been to make everything harder, more
difficult, more complicated -- as objectives in themselves, as though
overcoming them, made that right. To such people, anything easy and
effective, seems to be wrong -- because it seems too good to be true,
and therefore cannot be.
the best things in life, are easy, and as straightforward as that.
That is the obvious and the logical -- rather than doing the opposite,
which is the very definition of dysfunctional. Life wants
to make it easy -- but one has to be conditioned to go with that flow,
rather than to fight it at every opportunity -- making everything, and
all their lives, very difficult, because their teachers tell them, that
is how they must be -- in order to win their approval.
as the years pass, those who have learned only that conditioning --
realize it doesn't take them very far past that education -- when they
have to earn from their own lives and experiences, what actually works
for them. At that point, many already begin to lament that they are
growing "old," and the world they were prepared (conditioned) for, is a
constant frustration rather than fulfillment of everything they know and
thought to be true.
certainly, it should be easy to understand that only working one muscle
of the body harder, faster and tirelessly, won't get the superior
results of working all the muscles nominally -- which is really what is
required to maintain peak physical condition and responsiveness
throughout a long and versatile life -- capable of doing the many
things, and not just the one.
No Amount of Health Care Insurance is a Substitute for Health
In fact, the better the health, the less there is need for health care -- and not that more health care insures health. Health is something else entirely -- not dependent on health care providers -- but what each individual must provide for themselves. Nobody else can do it for them. The fact that we've come to believe very differently -- the opposite, is the measure of its validity.
That's why it is so important for the health care insurance program to take off, that they convince healthy people to buy health care insurance to subsidize the costs of the unhealthiest segment of the population -- who don't care about their health, other than to see a doctor and have them make them well -- and if others won't, why should they themselves?
That's how perverted the whole discussion has become. It's no longer that one might be the exception that ill health may befall, but now it is a certainty that everyone will suffer that fate in this society. And so we are much worse off than we ever were before -- where people could choose and suffer their own consequences, rather than everybody having no chance better than the worst.
There have been healthy people for ages -- as well as unhealthy people, who in times past, would just perish -- because there wasn't an army of caregivers to keep alive -- because no society had the affluence to prolong life no matter how unviable it became. The world still doesn't have that kind of unlimited resources -- and never will. Difficult choices always have to be made -- and that is what the history of civilization, and the personal lives of every individual has been all about.
Now, people with very comfortable and secure lives, point out that they can't afford to make trips every month, anywhere in the world -- as though that is their entitlement also. But the easy life is not as easy as it seems -- because when those people aren't making their travels, they are alternately receiving and recovering from a $100,000 heart surgery -- or some other equally expensive and life-changing procedure. It may be to cut out a part of their gastrointestinal system so they don't digest all that good food and living. But until it gets so bad, most people just let it pile on to their bodies and strain their organs -- until they qualify for that life-threatening necessity.
If that weren't bad enough, many so-called health conscious people -- actually inflict their own injuries as the inevitable result of their activities -- often in taking extreme risks to prove their fitness. But things can go wrong jumping out of airplanes -- or off of ski jumps, even if those thrills may reassure one they are still alive -- as well as swimming with the sharks, or driving fast, for that matter. That's even true with bicycling, when many people think the object is speed and time, rather than safety. No amount of (health care) insurance, is guarantee for such poor choices and priorities.
It does make an overwhelming difference that one is at the healthiest condition they can be -- that enables them to function and make the best choices of their lives -- because their minds are sharp and clear to do so -- arising from their health. Unhealthy people, cannot make good decisions -- and that determines the results and outcomes of their lives. It doesn't just happen -- but are the inevitable result not only of one bad choice, but the many that make bad choices inevitable -- even if it is habitual smoking, or overeating, and never doing anything for themselves anymore -- until finally, they are dependent on an army of caregivers to do everything for them -- just to keep them alive, for no other reason except that it is possible, and they are fully insured to do so.
But we never ask first, what makes life living? -- only that it must be perpetuated for as long as possible -- even against their will and wish -- as though somehow we knew better. Not surprisingly, that is ruinous for many people -- often young people who have to "sacrifice" their lives, to keep alive another who cannot do so for themselves -- because that was what was always done before. In that manner, each generation sacrifices for another -- and no one is held accountable for their own lives -- as their prime responsibility -- the meaning of their own existence.
They are too busy "serving" others. That is what it means to be an indentured servant -- to serve another -- above one's own interests and well-being. And so we are back to Square One -- when the founders of this nation, sought to create a society free from those predetermined obligations -- to serve everybody else above themselves. No society works very well that way -- and not for long, because the efficient society, the productive society, is where each has unlimited title to their own efforts and choices -- and not that the most successful, must serve the least.
The strong then become weak, and the weak, weaker -- because they can, and are fully entitled to.
Life is Very Simple
However, many people think the objective in life, is to make it very complicated -- but life itself, is very simple.
the objective of every life, is to be the best you can be.
That doesn't mean being the best one can be for somebody else -- or by
any other standards but only the best by one's own standards, and how
one actualizes them. That is the meaning of life for everyone -- how well they live up to their own best actualization of it. It doesn't matter what most people do -- or what everybody else is doing -- as long as one is following one's own path of discovering their own best actualization of life.
That gives meaning to the survival of the fit -- and the fittest. If one doesn't do it for themselves, then nobody else will do it better for them. It is something each has to do for themselves -- as their calling
in life -- beyond all the other concerns and problems of their daily
living. It might be a job, but it is much more than that. It is their
total being -- in everything they do.
And that is what conditioning
ultimately is all about -- preparing one for those attempts to be one's
best. But many have never learned to think that way -- of being at
their best, because they were convinced they didn't matter and had no
competence to think about such things for themselves -- but should
follow some master plan thought up by others -- who know better,
or presume they do -- when even they have not thought about anything
for themselves, but merely went along, because that's what everybody
else was doing.
if one is lucky in life, one gets to actually think for oneself -- on
the many things others offer to do one's thinking for them -- invariably
for their own benefit/advantage, and not necessarily one's own. That
too, is what they believe, "everybody does." And so one of the great
quests in life, is to find those who point out the truth of the matter
-- and not just because it is to their advantage to have everyone else
think so -- and become confused on the difference. They may start out
knowing the difference, but with practice, end up believing their own
lies -- as the truth, and find themselves powerless to abandon that path
-- that they have invested and dedicated their lives to.
that would mean starting all over again -- which they believe is the
worst thing that can happen to a successful person in life -- rather
than realizing, that the truth is always beginning all over again, because it is not dependent on tradition and conformity to make it so, but can be proven by every individual, in their own lives.
It is not the truth, just because many, or "everybody" says so -- but
can be discovered anew, by a fresh and simple mind. That is the attentive mind capable of infinite learning -- because it has no preconceived notions, of what the truth is. It is an unconditioned mind.
can we get the mind into that state of openness so that it can learn
the truth? That is why it is important in doing one's exercises -- to rest -- as much as it is, to put out a maximum effort -- because it is the movement from from one condition to the other, that is the power to change, and know that difference.
people's conditioning, is to do only one thing -- either to put out the
effort, or maximize the relaxation -- and not move easily from one to
the other, which is the power to change. And so they are only
reinforcing the way they are -- instead of being able to change, into
whatever is appropriate and suitable to the challenge. Sometimes
maximum power is desired, but also recognizing when to yield in the face
of much greater power, conveys greater survival value -- which even the
"king of beasts," must often do, if they wish to remain so for long.
need look no further than the instruction of the heart -- to know that
its effectiveness and value in life, is that it simply moves from one
state of complete contraction to the state of complete relaxation -- and
back relentlessly, as the optimal way every muscle can be conditioned
to function, and endure. In no case, would one want that muscle to fail
-- yet that is what many think is desirable to do -- produce muscle
failure, and fatigue -- rather relieve it! That is what one one's
conditioning should desire instead. How does one condition one's
muscles not to fail? That is the question.
the answer to that is very simple -- alternating a full contraction
with a full relaxation -- rather than a constant effort until the muscle
fails. And then to completely relax until one recovers again -- to
produce muscle failure again, etc. But simply lowering a weight is not
resting -- as most people think is true, whether doing a bench press or
squat -- because one is still putting out effort enough to support that
weight, or the weight will crush their chest or cause them to
essentially, they are maintaining a near maximum effort (contraction)
throughout the duration of that set (exercise), and then require a
prolonged rest period to recover before they often repeat those efforts
-- instead of finding a way they can continue (prolong) the movement, by
alternating the rest and contraction -- that requires them to take a
much lighter weight that allows them to feel relaxed, while finding a
way to attain a maximum contraction without using an overly heavy weight
-- that has very little to do with a peak muscle contraction, but
everything to do with a sustained muscle contraction until its
that is why the body (muscles) fail -- rather than succeed at remaining
vital for the duration of one's long life -- even in those who were
"successful" in that way for a brief time much younger in life. They
ultimately have to fail in that way. Nothing else is possible -- in
that manner of training. So one has to devise a new (different) way of
training that takes into account that insight -- which is a very obvious
and simple thing to do. That changes everything.
Better Than Young
young the best that one can hope to be -- or is there something beyond
that that makes the rest of life more meaningful -- otherwise, we are
young just to grow old, and old just to long to be young again?
stage of life has its own challenges -- and merely wishing to be what
one is not, is not a very intelligent way of meeting the challenges at
any stage or conditions of life. In fact, that is the very manner in
which people become disconnected from their lives and the realities --
and choose to live in "another world" that others have an increasingly
difficult time understanding why it is they are doing what they do.
That is the problem of thought and memory in preference and precedence to awareness of simply what is. Instead, one superimposes what should be, or what they would like it to be,
over how things actually are -- which is what is. Many people's
conditioning -- is entirely of that manner -- preferring to live in
their worlds of delusions, fantasies and entertainment -- which robs
them of the singleminded focus required to make the best of what they
despite what they have, they want more -- or different, and never what
they already have -- and make the most of that. And if that were not
enough of a problem, they blame others, for not having what they want --
and as much of it as they want, while doing little, or nothing, with
what they already have.
surprisingly, that is also the regard they have to their bodies, health
and talent -- that is something only to be taken for granted, and that
they should wish for something else -- a better body, features, being
young again -- rather than being the best they can be -- at their
present age. The presumption is, that they already are -- but they've
never given any thought to where they are, and why they are the way
there are -- before wishing it were otherwise.
In order to get anywhere, one first has to know where one is presently,
and not knowing that, it is meaningless to proceed along any journey,
undertake any task -- and that is why the central feature of any map, is
to tell you first where you are -- before telling you about the places
you can go.
that reason, the great advice of wise individuals throughout the ages,
has been to Know Oneself -- otherwise, one can have all kinds of
delusions about who one is, and what one thinks they are doing,
and always, there will be great disappointments leading to greater
disconnections from the simple realities of the present. That has to be
the clue to understanding why people do what they do -- even if it is
killing them, and causing their problems -- that they just hope,
somebody else will solve -- and it is never that the reason for their
living, is to make the best of their own lives.
media propaganda is often that that is not what we should be doing --
but only doing that for somebody else -- their family, their community,
their country, and some vague notion of high ideals -- while thinking
nothing, and doing nothing of simple acts of execution that actually
matter, and make a difference.
lost touch with that essential connection -- and so it is not entirely
surprising, that they become increasingly disconnected from their own
bodies, and what is required to maintain their essential health and
well-being -- and what they concern themselves with, have nothing at all
to do with the task at hand, but is only a diversion and entertainment,
from applying all that thought, energy and time, to what would make a
great difference -- and that is a greater awareness of what things
actually are -- and not just their wishful-thinking, of what they would
like them to be.
That never works.